Let's just be Honest!!

I remember the days back when you didn't have to question if someone was being honest or not. Everyone just knew that honesty was the best. But I also remember the days when I wasn't honest either. But now this subject weighs heavy on my heart.

Why is it these days everyone has to be so sneaky and tip toe around the truth. Just say the truth and save a lot of heartache at the same time. Some people think that being an honest person doesn't pertain to them. That they can treat people ever how they want. They think that their feelings are the only ones that matter. Why is it so hard for a person to be honest?

I remember telling lies growing up I thought I would save myself some heartache and spanking but all I did was make things worse. Just because we grow up doesn't mean that that changes. Lying still gets you in more trouble/ makes things worse. I remember thinking its just a little lie. But now that I am grown and have experienced the feeling of being lied too it's not just a little thing. Lying is lying and it doesn't change from one person to the next.

I would like to say I find it funny that people think they can get away with lying. But actually I find it rather heartbreaking. Lying ruins friendships, relationships, families, jobs and many other things in life.

So I ask why do some people feel compelled to lie? It sure isn't cool or awesome of you. It actually causes people to pull away from you, not trust you. So if someone tells you they don't trust you because you have lied in the past DO NOT get mad at anyone but YOURSELF!!!! You put yourself in that situation. So dig yourself out. PROVE YOURSELF to be a better and different person!

Does pride play a factor in this too? Are some people to afraid to drop their pride and be the real person on the inside? More than likely in some cases. I speak from experience. I use to be that way. But I learned letting me out and dropping the pride is so much better. Granted when I did that I lost friends and people I thought cared. Guess that is a good way to find out who really has your back. I was left with a select few. I wouldn't trade them for the world. So maybe you should drop your pride to learn how to feel good and live life to the best.

We get so caught up in what the world thinks of us that we lose our selves in the mix. We feel we have to put on a show. We have to make people think one thing instead of another. You know we can be ourselves and still live life to the fullest. You may miss out on something but it was things you probably needed to miss out on. The world doesn't care it just puts on a front just as you do!

I have realized most people lie to the ones they love the most so they don't "hurt" them. Or someone lie well just because. So why can't we be honest with the ones we love. Instead we push them further and further away from ourselves. We should always be honest with the family, best friend, and spouse! No matter what!!

Family. Well they deserve the truth because they raised you and the majority of the time they raised you better than lying.

Best Friend. 99% of the time your best friend knows the truth anyways! Or they can tell if you are lying or not.

Spouse/ Better Half. You should always be honest if you want the relationship to survive. Keep that open line of communication. You have to learn it's not just you anymore! And you are no longer single. Someone else's feelings are invested in this. So just be honest. And yes if you are trying to earn trust back because of a lie then you will have to prove yourself to be a better person. So don't get mad.

I think some people get mad just because they got caught lying! Well they should be mad at their self!! They caused all of the problems.


So I ask, Why must someone feel compelled to lie? Not big lies but little ones that should be just an honest quick answer. Lying just causes more grief than the truth does. I would rather know the truth and be heartbroken by it than lied too and look like a fool. I have looked like a fool way to many times. But God has a way of cleaning up our lives. He is constantly cleaning up! He cleans out the people that don't have the same morals as we do. I feel we are given an opportunity to teach them but you can't change a person.  If you have ever lied to a person then you will more than likely find yourself trying to prove yourself again. You will be earning back respect and if not then it's because you just don't care. I hope you care!

Sorry this blog tonight is so crazy with multiple paragraphs. This is something that I have noticed is getting out of hand!

At the days end here is my prayer and wish... That you learn respect and learn to be truthful. It will save so many heartaches. There is enough heartache with you lying about something so small.

I think I am off my soap box now!! :) Good night all!

Trust your Feet

We do so many workouts now that it's hard to keep up with which is which. Yesterday it was the flithy fifty and today was something called chipper style I do believe. Today's workout consisted of 4 laps around the gym, 25 walking lunges, 25 push- ups, 25 kettle bell swings, 25 Burpees,and 100 jump ropes. I am horrible at jumping rope. I always have been so I was basically dreading but mentally preparing myself for jumping rope. I struggled do jump rope. I would do a few and then get tangled in the rope. I took a "water break" and when I came back it was like it just clicked. My upper and lower body finally got on the same page and I could jump rope. I flew through almost all of them in the end. I caught myself thinking about my feet, wanting to make sure they jump off the ground at the right time!

I find myself "learning" to trust my feet a lot in the gym. To stand just right on them for a certain workout to use them the right way in others. It clicked the other day and now I find myself repeating "trust your feet!" I find myself even telling Rhoda to trust her feet.

But we struggled at first to trust our own feet. We wobbled and shook trying to learn to trust. Now this is just our on 2 feet. Not trusting someone else with our life or anything. This is basic small things we shouldn't be worried about. But we do because it was something new and something different.

We all get this way in life too. How well we can learn from this. We all tend to have trust issues at some point in our lives. And for some it consumes them. Trust issues consumed me for a while. Now I have learned to trust my own feet and how to learn to trust others. Sometimes people do things that hurt and cause us to lose trust in them. Sometimes though we tend to forget that everyone is human and we ALL make mistakes. All this is easier said than done, this I do know. We have to learn to trust a person just as we learn in the gym to trust our feet.

Maybe we can learn a lesson from our feet. Think about your feet and the pounding they take all day everyday.... Sometimes we do the same to people. So when they crack and we lose trust it is up to us to forgive, and learn to trust again.

I trust my feet! They may get weak and let me down sometimes but I still trust them. People are the same way. Our friendship or relationship of any matter may get weak but no one is perfect.


I encourage you to learn to trust your feet more!

Holidays Are Gone and A New Year Is Here!!

So I guess most everyone "survived" Christmas and New Year's. We did. Christmas is always so busy for us. We always have so many places to go for Christmas. The greatest part of Christmas this year was seeing my child's face when he saw what Santa had brought him. Absolutely PRICELESS!

But now that the holidays are over and gone I realize we have all lost that "giddy" feeling. We have all slipped back into those mornings and days of "UGH!" We should still have a "giddy" feeling. We have a new year before us. So many people are starting on their list of resolutions. Me, well I didn't make the first resolution. Why make one if you know you are not gonna stick with it. Haha...

Instead of setting those same old resolutions of eating right, exercising, keeping the house up a little bit better, etc... why not dig deeper and work on the old heart that still continues to beat year after year. I mean you are here on this Earth for a reason right? So if you are still here then you still have a purpose! If you know your purpose then that's great. Don't quit, strive to do better!

Purpose. We all have a purpose. For years I mean years I wondered what MY purpose was. I wanted to help people. That's all I knew. Just help. I tossed ideas around about what to do when I graduated from high school. So many things I just didn't know what to do. Changed my major 3 times. Never accomplished anything. What was my purpose if I couldn't even make my mind up for a major? I wasn't searching deep enough. You have to do some soul-searching to find your purpose. So start searching.

Positive Influence. Be a positive influence on people. I can't stand people that constantly are looking for the worst and expecting the worst. They dread everyday and miss out on tons of happiness. They think your crazy when you smile and try to help. So don't be a negative influence. Don't drag others down. Lift them up!

It's up to you how to live your life. I just like to throw my 2 cents in. It doesn't matter if you want or think you need to change. We all need a little work. So start a new year off right. Do a little self maintenance before you try to fix someone else!!

Happy New Year!!