I should have seen it coming, but I didn't . The truth is, it hurts like heck. A broken heart isn't an easy over night fix. To know that someone you loved so much, doesn't love you back. Knowing they chose to find someone else and mislead you for months doesn't help. But, with all the emotions of anger, hurt, betrayal, unloved and the list could go on, I have found some important life lessons in this.
Many people want me to hold a grudge, to hate him, to take him to the cleaners, to make his life miserable, to trash him every chance I get, but that's NOT how it is going to work. That's not how it is working. Yes, people I'm hurt. Yes, I'm frustrated and no where close to being fully over this. But, here is a start, and maybe, just maybe, you can learn from it too.
You see, now that I have had time to process what happened and where I'm headed, I see things so different than from the outside world looking in. I no longer hold a grudge, I'm working on forgiving him. Crazy, right? Nope! Unfortunately, most people I know hold a grudge against him more than I do. Which is crazier? You were not in the situation nor did you have to deal with it. People think they have the answer, but in reality they are in their " happily married bubble" or " man hater bubble" and can't give good, honest advice. Sorry, not trying to be rude. I have had 1 person give me their opinion and it made so much sense and to that person Thank You.
What he did was wrong. Families were destroyed. Hearts broken. But, he also was a good father, a good husband, a good friend. When everything happened people forgot all that! They forgot him. They marked him off for a lose. I am realizing I have to be the one to show how forgiving someone works. Like I said, I no longer hold a grudge. I am working on the forgiving part. You know, I could let this ruin my life, but why?! I have chose to be different and to follow my heart. I know him and I are over, but we have a precious child together that needs both of us. So, I'm following my heart, letting go of the anger and working on forgiving.
