Let's just be Honest!!

I remember the days back when you didn't have to question if someone was being honest or not. Everyone just knew that honesty was the best. But I also remember the days when I wasn't honest either. But now this subject weighs heavy on my heart.

Why is it these days everyone has to be so sneaky and tip toe around the truth. Just say the truth and save a lot of heartache at the same time. Some people think that being an honest person doesn't pertain to them. That they can treat people ever how they want. They think that their feelings are the only ones that matter. Why is it so hard for a person to be honest?

I remember telling lies growing up I thought I would save myself some heartache and spanking but all I did was make things worse. Just because we grow up doesn't mean that that changes. Lying still gets you in more trouble/ makes things worse. I remember thinking its just a little lie. But now that I am grown and have experienced the feeling of being lied too it's not just a little thing. Lying is lying and it doesn't change from one person to the next.

I would like to say I find it funny that people think they can get away with lying. But actually I find it rather heartbreaking. Lying ruins friendships, relationships, families, jobs and many other things in life.

So I ask why do some people feel compelled to lie? It sure isn't cool or awesome of you. It actually causes people to pull away from you, not trust you. So if someone tells you they don't trust you because you have lied in the past DO NOT get mad at anyone but YOURSELF!!!! You put yourself in that situation. So dig yourself out. PROVE YOURSELF to be a better and different person!

Does pride play a factor in this too? Are some people to afraid to drop their pride and be the real person on the inside? More than likely in some cases. I speak from experience. I use to be that way. But I learned letting me out and dropping the pride is so much better. Granted when I did that I lost friends and people I thought cared. Guess that is a good way to find out who really has your back. I was left with a select few. I wouldn't trade them for the world. So maybe you should drop your pride to learn how to feel good and live life to the best.

We get so caught up in what the world thinks of us that we lose our selves in the mix. We feel we have to put on a show. We have to make people think one thing instead of another. You know we can be ourselves and still live life to the fullest. You may miss out on something but it was things you probably needed to miss out on. The world doesn't care it just puts on a front just as you do!

I have realized most people lie to the ones they love the most so they don't "hurt" them. Or someone lie well just because. So why can't we be honest with the ones we love. Instead we push them further and further away from ourselves. We should always be honest with the family, best friend, and spouse! No matter what!!

Family. Well they deserve the truth because they raised you and the majority of the time they raised you better than lying.

Best Friend. 99% of the time your best friend knows the truth anyways! Or they can tell if you are lying or not.

Spouse/ Better Half. You should always be honest if you want the relationship to survive. Keep that open line of communication. You have to learn it's not just you anymore! And you are no longer single. Someone else's feelings are invested in this. So just be honest. And yes if you are trying to earn trust back because of a lie then you will have to prove yourself to be a better person. So don't get mad.

I think some people get mad just because they got caught lying! Well they should be mad at their self!! They caused all of the problems.


So I ask, Why must someone feel compelled to lie? Not big lies but little ones that should be just an honest quick answer. Lying just causes more grief than the truth does. I would rather know the truth and be heartbroken by it than lied too and look like a fool. I have looked like a fool way to many times. But God has a way of cleaning up our lives. He is constantly cleaning up! He cleans out the people that don't have the same morals as we do. I feel we are given an opportunity to teach them but you can't change a person.  If you have ever lied to a person then you will more than likely find yourself trying to prove yourself again. You will be earning back respect and if not then it's because you just don't care. I hope you care!

Sorry this blog tonight is so crazy with multiple paragraphs. This is something that I have noticed is getting out of hand!

At the days end here is my prayer and wish... That you learn respect and learn to be truthful. It will save so many heartaches. There is enough heartache with you lying about something so small.

I think I am off my soap box now!! :) Good night all!